[Sir Nuke]

Originally Posted by BowtieBelle

She's now started talking to/friending/kicking it with a couple of girls who treated me like garbage a few months back, and also being friendly with my abusive ex-boyfriend. Y'all are right. She's no friend, because she obviously doesn't respect me at all. Time to lay down the law. Enough is enough.

GO GET HER!!!!


keep us posted!

[Chrisrp454]

Yep she is not a friend!

[RubyCamaro]

No time like the present. Take care of YOURSELF. True friends will respect that. DO IT!

[Camaro_Corvette]

Originally Posted by Steve Dallas

Her stuff, in bags, in the driveway when she gets home. No rent, no place to stay.

I've had two friends live with me over the last two years and I didn't see a dime out of either of them. I just told them they have to move out. One I am still friends with, the other I'm not. So be it. I shouldn't have to deal with that, they should expect to help the **** out.

[Mr Twisty]

When you're 50 you'll look back on your life and realize who your REAL friends are/were.....

She won't be on the list

[driyac]

UH OH THIS GON GET GOOOOOOOOD

keep us updated.... hahahaha its like a play by play

[AZCamaroFan]

that sucks sarah. i hate the idea of loaning money out, because i've seen people not pay back family and friends....lots of money.
i once loaned a friend $500 and was scared he wouldn't pay it back and it would ruin our friendship, but fortunately he did.
Your friend is taking advantage of you , sorry to say.

[Dtrimpi87]

Originally Posted by AZCamaroFan

that sucks sarah. i hate the idea of loaning money out, because i've seen people not pay back family and friends....lots of money.
i once loaned a friend $500 and was scared he wouldn't pay it back and it would ruin our friendship, but fortunately he did.
Your friend is taking advantage of you , sorry to say.

I refuse to loan friends money just for that reason. When they ask why I tell them it's not because I don't trust you, its because I value our friendship. I will go above and beyond to help out a friend but money is out of the question. I will go move a buddy out of his apartment when his gf leaves him when he's on deployment all by myself with no questions asked but sorry, I will not loan you money. Money is just too big of an issue for some reason. Money problems are even one of the biggest causes of divorce.

[Dtrimpi87]

Originally Posted by Dtrimpi87

I refuse to loan friends money just for that reason. When they ask why I tell them it's not because I don't trust you, its because I value our friendship. I will go above and beyond to help out a friend but money is out of the question. I will go move a buddy out of his apartment when his gf leaves him when he's on deployment all by myself with no questions asked but sorry, I will not loan you money. Money is just too big of an issue for some reason. Money problems are even one of the biggest causes of divorce.

Now don't get me wrong, there is difference between loaning a friend $20 for gas or food or spotting them for a movie versus loaning hundreds or thousands of dollars.

[AZCamaroFan]

i had a friend who sold a cell phone and didn't properly transfer the thing and the new owner racked up $900. it went on for quite a while and then another friend of ours came to me and asked if we could split it to get him out of it. fortunately he'd just changed jobs and was making a lot more so he paid me $100 a week . i wasn't hurting for money... i just didn't want to be let down.

[Scalded Dog]

You don't want to risk being/ seeming mean, heartless, cold, or "a bad friend." I get that, I'm similar in that nature. What I recommend is that you take a few minutes to reflect much upon how she is steamrolling you (probably giggling to her friends--- including her "new" friends who were bltches to you a while back--- about how she is taking you for a ride), and once you are good and convinced that, sure enough, she IS totally taking adavantage of you... of another person's kindness and generosity... THEN go work on kicking her sorry butt out of there. Face the fact that you are going to lose a friend: Oh, wait... YOU were being a friend, but SHE was being a freeloader... you are NOT losing a friend. And, just as it is no business how much she earns or what she does with her money (true, as long as you get your money), it shouldn't be any of HER business how much you pay in rent/ mortgage (I'm sure she is fully aware already that your place is paid off, but... the point is, THAT shouldn't matter to a tenant. Landlords do not base their rent charged by how much they still owe, what their montlhy mortgage is, or any of that... the agreement between owner and tenant is completely independent of that). Your loss of privacy, your additional costs, your NOT being able to rent out the extra space to somebody willing to pay $1000/ month is what she should be paying for.

[DarkneSS]

Originally Posted by Dtrimpi87

I refuse to loan friends money just for that reason. When they ask why I tell them it's not because I don't trust you, its because I value our friendship. I will go above and beyond to help out a friend but money is out of the question. I will go move a buddy out of his apartment when his gf leaves him when he's on deployment all by myself with no questions asked but sorry, I will not loan you money. Money is just too big of an issue for some reason. Money problems are even one of the biggest causes of divorce.

I'm the same damn way.

I lent a friend $100 once and he bought weed and took a girl out to dinner before paying me back. If you owe someone money, not a dime should be spent on anything but necessities until the debt is paid. Then he paid me only $40 at first and $60 at another point. I flat out told him that he just ruined me lending out money to anyone else in the future

My problem is that people don't see debt the way I do, or any reasonable person should, and thus I don't want to deal with it.

Another problem is that there are low life people out there who will take advantage of you if you let them. All you need to do is let them get comfortable and it is game over for YOU!

This is exactly what your friend did. You set up a situation where she was living with free hand outs from you and she got comfortable.

Tell her to scram and cross her off your list of friends.

[1badtie]

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[Stingr69]

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