[FenwickHockey65]

Originally Posted by Berean

Step 1: Read the entire works of Jane Austen.

Step 2: Break the ice by asking her if she feels Mr. Darcy snubbed Elizabeth purely for social reasons, or if maybe there was a deeper sense of respect that he had for her and was denying his true feelings for her by keeping his distance.

Step 3: Point out the parallel with your situation and Mr. Darcy's, stating that you think Mr. Darcy was wrong to deny his true feelings for Elizabeth and that is something you could never do to a beautiful girl you respect as much as her.


You're gonna have to know this stuff once you get married, so you might as well get the hard part out of the way right off the bat.

That book was awful.

[GTAHVIT]

OK

are your parents strict? can you go out whenever or do you need to clear it with the folks?

basically, you need to steal a quick moment with her just to say, "Hey nice to meet you. would you mind if I called you sometime?"

Don't over think it or rehearse it. Just ask if you can call her.

Then keep it simple. once you talk on the phone, ask to do something short and simple .... Take her to get a Starbucks or an ice cream... Something where you are paying so she won't bring her friends along.

that will give you enough time talking to her to know if you really like her. then go from there.


simple. You may have a parent problem so be ready to be flexible... I'm 37 so I'm guessing as a junior in HS you have some freedom to come and go... but she may not...

You may want to let her brother know you are gonna ask her for her number. but that depends on the kinda guy he is..... if he's over protective.... don't tell him.

Try that.


let us know how it goes.

[DCamaroLover]

Originally Posted by Iwantone2

By staring at her, you're already showing interest. When you go up to talk to her, you'll be showing interest. You should go up to her and say something interesting. (By the way, when you approach her, don't approach her straight on or it will seem confrontational. Don't approach her from behind either or she'll "have the power". Approach her at an angle)

Don't over-think it, just approach. The more you think about it, the more nervous you will become and then eventually your mind will talk you out of it!

A few questions first: Do you guys do the same drills for swimming? Is there anything the guys do differently than the girls?

We are on different lanes, so her lane is assigned different things than what we are assigned to

[Synerbee]

My strategy is to become friends first, and showing small hints until she likes me. Never failed me before.

[GTAHVIT]

Here's another thought...

Takes a little planning but might work to get her to give you her number instead of asking for it.

If possible go to one of her meets.... don't make a spectacle just watch and make sure she sees you there... Just give her a wave when she's free so she sees you.

Then she'll probably approach you there or at the next practice and you can get her number then.

Just know... she will have little doubt that you are interested in her.... so you kinda show your cards with this approach... but that's the point right.

EDIT:

almost forgot. I'd show up unannounced... Don't let on that you'll be there.... Again, this could be a lot of work, but if you want to get to that "friends" point first and take it slow this could be an option.

If it were me... I'd just ask for the number.

[Iwantone2]

Originally Posted by DCamaroLover

We are on different lanes, so her lane is assigned different things than what we are assigned to

Hmm...but I take it that eventually everybody does the same drills?

How about this:

"Hey, me and some of the guys were having a little competition to see who could hold their breath the longest. I could hold it for (insert your time here)...you think you can beat that?"

It's a good idea to smile when you are talking to her, but don't smile too much, just enough for her to smile back...and not some creepy psycho smile either, but a friendly-I'm-not-going-to-hurt-you smile.

You could also make it a bit of a challenge for her by adding, "Oh, but it won't be that easy. While you're holding your breath, you have to stand on one foot as well." If she complies to this, YOU'RE FREAKIN GOLDEN!!! If she doesn't, that's fine, just see how long she can hold her breath for. While she is holding her breath and standing on one foot, start counting obviously, but also shake your head a bit as in showing dissapproval or as if she is doing it wrong. When she is done, say "A 1 year old has better balance than you!" but don't make it seem like you are coming off as a jerk, make it so that she'll laugh as well.

That should be a friendly, non-threatening way to approach her.

[GTAHVIT]

Originally Posted by Iwantone2

Hmm...but I take it that eventually everybody does the same drills?

How about this:

"Hey, me and some of the guys were having a little competition to see who could hold their breath the longest. I could hold it for (insert your time here)...you think you can beat that?"

It's a good idea to smile when you are talking to her, but don't smile too much, just enough for her to smile back...and not some creepy psycho smile either, but a friendly-I'm-not-going-to-hurt-you smile.

You could also make it a bit of a challenge for her by adding, "Oh, but it won't be that easy. While you're holding your breath, you have to stand on one foot as well." If she complies to this, YOU'RE FREAKIN GOLDEN!!! If she doesn't, that's fine, just see how long she can hold her breath for. While she is holding her breath and standing on one foot, start counting obviously, but also shake your head a bit as in showing dissapproval or as if she is doing it wrong. When she is done, say "A 1 year old has better balance than you!" but don't make it seem like you are coming off as a jerk, make it so that she'll laugh as well.

That should be a friendly, non-threatening way to approach her.

I'm not sure if I should delete this post to protect the innocent or ask Tran to put it on the homepage for it's brilliance.....

[Iwantone2]

Originally Posted by GTAHVIT

I'm not sure if I should delete this post to protect the innocent or ask Tran to put it on the homepage for it's brilliance.....

How about both?

And I am honored that a Mod has quoted my humble post

[GTAHVIT]

Originally Posted by Iwantone2

How about both?

And I am honored that a Mod has quoted my humble post

[DCamaroLover]

Thanks to those of you who have contributed constructively. What I am basically needing is just like a simple sample convo I could use to aquire her number. Nothing big and flashy. If it is obvious she is interested in me, like most of you have said, I just need a quick minute convo to talk to her so she could give me her number, which if she is interested in me, shouldn't be too hard. But I appreciate all the words of wisdom. I am not asking the girl to marry me, I just dont have much experience personally asking for a number, or having to have a conversation to obtain it. I usually add her on facebook, like her pics, leave her a comment then send her a personal message saying "hey i gotta tell you a secret, text me at (insert number here)." and then when she does, i just say "i think youre cute". works everytime. I just dont have experience going up to a girl in person and asking for the number, which is where I need you guy's help at.

[Entaille]

since you are friends with her brother I would approach him first and ask him for permission. you don't want to mess up a friendship over a random lady.

your goal is to get her phone number, and start texting her? wow times are changing for the worst. whatever happened to talking to people face to face and manning up : )

[DCamaroLover]

Originally Posted by Entaille

since you are friends with her brother I would approach him first and ask him for permission. you don't want to mess up a friendship over a random lady.

your goal is to get her phone number, and start texting her? wow times are changing for the worst. whatever happened to talking to people face to face and manning up : )

texting her in between dates. not just texting her.

[GTAHVIT]

Dude,

"would you mind if I call you?"

get her number.

Say, "thanks, I'll call ya later."

wait a day and call her.

Done.

OH and the facebook thing..... yeah that won't work much longer... just sayin...

[Synerbee]

Originally Posted by DCamaroLover

Thanks to those of you who have contributed constructively. What I am basically needing is just like a simple sample convo I could use to aquire her number. Nothing big and flashy. If it is obvious she is interested in me, like most of you have said, I just need a quick minute convo to talk to her so she could give me her number, which if she is interested in me, shouldn't be too hard. But I appreciate all the words of wisdom. I am not asking the girl to marry me, I just dont have much experience personally asking for a number, or having to have a conversation to obtain it. I usually add her on facebook, like her pics, leave her a comment then send her a personal message saying "hey i gotta tell you a secret, text me at (insert number here)." and then when she does, i just say "i think youre cute". works everytime. I just dont have experience going up to a girl in person and asking for the number, which is where I need you guy's help at.

Ask her what she does in swimming