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Originally Posted by navyblue2000
I still love her and the tears stopped last week. We all make mistakes. I didn't think "lowly" of her, I just did something really stupid.
it is possible to get a padlock on this thing now? I think it's run its course. I'm certainly glad for all the advice. Some of it is new, some is reinforcement!
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You'll be fine. Don't look for another either. SHE will find YOU. And love this one. You can't love someone and persue that type emotional connection with another.
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Originally Posted by usa1camaro1969
Wife accused me for years of screwing around. It turned out she was the one that moved in with another guy while I was deployed and telling my 16-yr old daughter to not say anything or I'd take her away from her mom. I found out when I came back. The whole time she was draining our accounts.
My kid and I now have a great relationship and respects me. Her mom is still trying to buy her respect and love back.
If they're accusing you of something you aren't doing it's time to see what they're doing. They're usually trying to justify their actions. Because they're a whore doesn't mean you had to be one.
You had a lot to do with what blew up in your face. My advice is a lot what others have said. Be there for your kids. Don't grill the kids about mom. Don't use the kids against mom. Don't be a wuss. By that, I mean if she's asking you to do something for her that you wouldn't normally do for someone you aren't emotionally involved with, don't do it. You may still be emotionally involved. She's not. She may try to see just what she can get you to still do.
And her "friend" she just had to say "Hi" to at midnight is more than just a friend.
Good luck. My marriage lasted 17-years. The plus is I found a gorgeous woman a couple years later and we have a great relationship still 3-years later.
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I went throught the same thing while deployed to Iraq the first time back in 91'. My ex-wife 'moved on' while I was gone and I was BROKE when I came back.
Difference is my daughter was 2 at the time. She's 22 now and I haven't seen her since she was 2. her mother was young and crazy and didn't make it easy to see my daughter. Got remarried and moved on. And so did I.