Age Gap - And -When to draw the line.

Asylum · 03-20-2010, 02:42 AM

Friend of mine was asking for my 0.02 on the subject. Thus I knew immdiately it would be a great OT Discussion

Male, Age 25, Employed, No problem picking up women (his own age), Several relationships, Outgoing, Clubbing, Down to earth

Female, Age 16, High school, Employed, Cool person, Wise beyond their years, old soul in a young body, mature, outgoing, lots of fun.

Background: They met, hit it off good, guy was lied to by friends of 16 year old, feelings were established, now the truth is out and established.

That is the description givin to me by my friend. I personally think that the age gap is to wild, and for functionality in the relationship its to difficult. If I was a parent, and found out about the *above* and it was my daughter, I'd forbid it.

However playing the roll of devil's advocate, in no way if these two people get together does it affect me so i suppose if their happy then so be it.. But still in the end I say No.

Discuss.

kdbolt70 · 03-20-2010, 02:45 AM

16 is a very vulnerable age for a young woman, especially when influenced by a much older man. "Wise beyond her years" may certainly be true, but it does not make up for life experience in situations such as this. I'd say give it another couple yeas, at least till she gets out of HS.

*Mindz* · 03-20-2010, 03:09 AM

No. Anyone under 18 shouldn't be in a serious relationship yet. The guy knows what he wants and she doesn't. Plus she still has to figure out who her friends really are if they're lying to people about it.

Did the girl know friends lied to the guy?

ViperTomcat · 03-20-2010, 03:34 AM

You're not ready for anything but driving at 16.

Hell you dont even know who you are at 16. Compare my 16 year old self to now (24, will be 25 May 11th) and it is night and day.

No bueno

Asylum · 03-20-2010, 03:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mindz

No. Anyone under 18 shouldn't be in a serious relationship yet. The guy knows what he wants and she doesn't. Plus she still has to figure out who her friends really are if they're lying to people about it.

Did the girl know friends lied to the guy?

I haven't been provided with the whole situation, but from what i understand he was lied to, they spent time together, shit happened and they fooled around. She told him the truth, or so i have been told

Either way, I personally dont think it should go on.
I spoke to a lady friend of mine to get her take on the situation and she was all about it, claiming if they are happy bla bla bal

I was just like bleh - no go imo.

Sterling · 03-20-2010, 04:23 AM

I'd drop her like a hot potato...

Stingr69 · 03-20-2010, 04:57 AM

Benny Mardones sings it best. Try searching YouTube for "Into the night". I have not looked but I bet it it there.

-Mark.

Camaro68 · 03-20-2010, 05:21 AM

I have read, what everyone here has said and I'm going with NO NO NO. If I was the Father

SScattergunSS · 03-20-2010, 05:32 AM

He's 25 and she's 16...NO!!! Even if she was 18, the 7 year difference then would still be too much with her being so young! As people get older the age difference isn't as big of a deal, because maturity carries alot more weight at that point. BUT NO 16 year old GIRL need to be involved with a MAN!!! And to be honest, he ought to know better, because it just isn't fair to that girl!!!

bono83 · 03-20-2010, 07:07 AM

Not sure what the laws are where your friend lives, but in IL he could be arrested for "fooling around" with her because of her age. Not a good idea for many reasons.

NoUCantDriveIt · 03-20-2010, 07:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kdbolt70

16 is a very vulnerable age for a young woman, especially when influenced by a much older man. "Wise beyond her years" may certainly be true, but it does not make up for life experience in situations such as this.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mindz

No. Anyone under 18 shouldn't be in a serious relationship yet. The guy knows what he wants and she doesn't.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ViperTomcat

Hell you dont even know who you are at 16. Compare my 16 year old self to now (24, will be 25 May 11th) and it is night and day.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SScattergunSS

Even if she was 18, the 7 year difference then would still be too much with her being so young! As people get older the age difference isn't as big of a deal, because maturity carries alot more weight at that point.

Legal ramifications aside, I think these comments nailed it. No matter how it's sliced and diced... there's a world of differance between 16 and 25. Those differances are too great for anything more than a short term novelty.

5thGenCamaroChick · 03-20-2010, 09:36 AM

As my hubby says... 16 will get you 20.

Besides that, she might SEEM to be mature for her age, but in reality she's just practicing. Same concept as puppy love, basically. She can't actually be as mature as she seems until she experiences the things that make us all grow up. Don't get me wrong, she might be more mature than her peers, but that's not saying a lot considering the maturity level of most 16 yr olds.

Lastly, you should ask your friend how he would feel if some guy was fooling around with his 16 yr old kid sister/neice/daughter. I bet he would see the situation differently.

Edit: One last thing...

You said... "from what i understand he was lied to, they spent time together, shit happened and they fooled around. She told him the truth, or so i have been told"

If she waited til AFTER they fooled around to tell him she's 16 that can only mean 1 thing:

That little girl is T-R-O-U-B-L-E with a capital T and he should avoid her like the plague.

CynAgain · 03-20-2010, 09:41 AM

if your friend has to ask you might want to rethink the friendship

Asylum · 03-20-2010, 09:52 AM

The friend asking me about this isn't the 25 year old, its someone at his work.
He was asking me because I usually have very outside the box theories, but even with this..

Jesus. I don't think even a politician could twist this into being a good thing or even a lawyer... lol

03-20-2010, 02:42 AM	#1
Asylum Account Suspended Drives: 2010 2SS RS Black on Black Manual 6 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Brampton Posts: 441	Age Gap - And -When to draw the line. Friend of mine was asking for my 0.02 on the subject. Thus I knew immdiately it would be a great OT Discussion Male, Age 25, Employed, No problem picking up women (his own age), Several relationships, Outgoing, Clubbing, Down to earth Female, Age 16, High school, Employed, Cool person, Wise beyond their years, old soul in a young body, mature, outgoing, lots of fun. Background: They met, hit it off good, guy was lied to by friends of 16 year old, feelings were established, now the truth is out and established. That is the description givin to me by my friend. I personally think that the age gap is to wild, and for functionality in the relationship its to difficult. If I was a parent, and found out about the above and it was my daughter, I'd forbid it. However playing the roll of devil's advocate, in no way if these two people get together does it affect me so i suppose if their happy then so be it.. But still in the end I say No. Discuss.

03-20-2010, 02:45 AM	#2
kdbolt70 Drives: 2010 Camaro 2SS/RS Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Haslett, Mi Posts: 1,287 View My Garage	16 is a very vulnerable age for a young woman, especially when influenced by a much older man. "Wise beyond her years" may certainly be true, but it does not make up for life experience in situations such as this. I'd say give it another couple yeas, at least till she gets out of HS. __________________ 2SS/RS Victory Red M6 w/ Black Rallys #3305 Muffler Delete, Lloyd "SS" Floormats, K&N Aircharger, Skip Shift Eliminator, Blacked Bowties

03-20-2010, 03:09 AM	#3
Mindz E.B.A.H. Drives: you wild... Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: In the happy padded room wearing a jacket that makes me hug myself... Posts: 18,421	No. Anyone under 18 shouldn't be in a serious relationship yet. The guy knows what he wants and she doesn't. Plus she still has to figure out who her friends really are if they're lying to people about it. Did the girl know friends lied to the guy? __________________ Blue Rush, 2010 SS [Car of the Week 3/22/2010] Traded in on...ZLZBUBB, 2013 ZL1

03-20-2010, 04:23 AM	#6
Sterling Drives: 2010 Camaro 1LT/RS M6 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Fairhaven, MA Posts: 5,885 View My Garage	I'd drop her like a hot potato... __________________ Trifecta tune, Vararam Intake, VMAX throttle body and manifold insulator, RxPerformance Catch Can, , MRT v1.0 and Louvers, Barton shifter, BMR strut tower brace, RED dome light and Plasma LED DRL's, fieldgoal00's Halo 1 harness, hood spears/side stripes, rain guards, custom bowtie, Team LLT badges, headlight and foglight covers, taillight and side marker covers, backup light covers, WeatherTech floormats

03-20-2010, 05:21 AM	#8
Camaro68 Drives: 68 Camaro 327ci 2SS/RS 376ci LS3 Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Prince William, VA Posts: 2,703 View My Garage	NO I have read, what everyone here has said and I'm going with NO NO NO. If I was the Father __________________ 6000 Vehicle Delivered to Customer 6-23-10

03-20-2010, 03:34 AM	#4
ViperTomcat Banned Drives: 2011 Avenger Heat Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oregon Posts: 1,697	You're not ready for anything but driving at 16. Hell you dont even know who you are at 16. Compare my 16 year old self to now (24, will be 25 May 11th) and it is night and day. No bueno

03-20-2010, 04:57 AM	#7
Stingr69 '69 Owned Since '79 Drives: '69 Z/28 LeMans Blue w/White Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: LR AR Posts: 1,847 View My Garage	Benny Mardones sings it best. Try searching YouTube for "Into the night". I have not looked but I bet it it there. -Mark.

03-20-2010, 05:32 AM	#9
SScattergunSS ~ Love or Lust ~ Drives: R6P 1SS/RS BLK/L99 Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: With My CynAgain Posts: 25,198	He's 25 and she's 16...NO!!! Even if she was 18, the 7 year difference then would still be too much with her being so young! As people get older the age difference isn't as big of a deal, because maturity carries alot more weight at that point. BUT NO 16 year old GIRL need to be involved with a MAN!!! And to be honest, he ought to know better, because it just isn't fair to that girl!!! __________________ ~ Then conquer we must, when our cause it is just, And this be our motto, "In God is our trust." And the Star Spangled Banner in triumph shall wave O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave ~ Francis Scott Key ~

03-20-2010, 07:07 AM	#10
bono83 Drives: 1969 Chevelle, 2010 1LT Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 378	Not sure what the laws are where your friend lives, but in IL he could be arrested for "fooling around" with her because of her age. Not a good idea for many reasons. __________________ Order: 5/23/09 - Deposit given with order at dealer. 1100: 6/26/09 - Order placed by dealer - no allocation 2000: 8/15/09 - Accepted by GM. 2500: 8/18/09 - Preferenced. 3000: 8/18/09 - Accepted by Production Control. 3100: 9/9/09 - Available to Sequence. 3300: 9/9/09 - Scheduled for Production. 3400: 9/19/09 - Broadcast. 3800: 9/29/09 - Produced. 4000: 9/29/09 - Available to Ship. 4150: 9/29/09 - Original Invoice. 4200: 10/6/09 - Shipped. 5000: 10/13/09 - Delivered to Dealer. 6000: 10/13/09 - Delivered to Customer.

03-20-2010, 09:36 AM	#12
5thGenCamaroChick Hey y'all :) Drives: Rosalee Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Southeast TN Posts: 437	As my hubby says... 16 will get you 20. Besides that, she might SEEM to be mature for her age, but in reality she's just practicing. Same concept as puppy love, basically. She can't actually be as mature as she seems until she experiences the things that make us all grow up. Don't get me wrong, she might be more mature than her peers, but that's not saying a lot considering the maturity level of most 16 yr olds. Lastly, you should ask your friend how he would feel if some guy was fooling around with his 16 yr old kid sister/neice/daughter. I bet he would see the situation differently. Edit: One last thing... You said... "from what i understand he was lied to, they spent time together, shit happened and they fooled around. She told him the truth, or so i have been told" If she waited til AFTER they fooled around to tell him she's 16 that can only mean 1 thing: That little girl is T-R-O-U-B-L-E with a capital T and he should avoid her like the plague. __________________ "Are you picking up what I'm laying down? Can you dig what I'm growing?" Last edited by 5thGenCamaroChick; 03-20-2010 at 10:10 AM.

03-20-2010, 09:41 AM	#13
CynAgain Drives: Chevy Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: USA Posts: 6,534	if your friend has to ask you might want to rethink the friendship

03-20-2010, 09:52 AM	#14
Asylum Account Suspended Drives: 2010 2SS RS Black on Black Manual 6 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Brampton Posts: 441	The friend asking me about this isn't the 25 year old, its someone at his work. He was asking me because I usually have very outside the box theories, but even with this.. Jesus. I don't think even a politician could twist this into being a good thing or even a lawyer... lol

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