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Originally Posted by Dtrimpi87
I refuse to loan friends money just for that reason. When they ask why I tell them it's not because I don't trust you, its because I value our friendship. I will go above and beyond to help out a friend but money is out of the question. I will go move a buddy out of his apartment when his gf leaves him when he's on deployment all by myself with no questions asked but sorry, I will not loan you money. Money is just too big of an issue for some reason. Money problems are even one of the biggest causes of divorce.
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I'm the same damn way.
I lent a friend $100 once and he bought weed and took a girl out to dinner before paying me back. If you owe someone money, not a dime should be spent on anything but necessities until the debt is paid. Then he paid me only $40 at first and $60 at another point. I flat out told him that he just ruined me lending out money to anyone else in the future
My problem is that people don't see debt the way I do, or any reasonable person should, and thus I don't want to deal with it.
Another problem is that there are low life people out there who will take advantage of you if you let them. All you need to do is let them get comfortable and it is game over for YOU!
This is exactly what your friend did. You set up a situation where she was living with free hand outs from you and she got comfortable.
Tell her to scram and cross her off your list of friends.