[usa1camaro1969]

Wife accused me for years of screwing around. It turned out she was the one that moved in with another guy while I was deployed and telling my 16-yr old daughter to not say anything or I'd take her away from her mom. I found out when I came back. The whole time she was draining our accounts.
My kid and I now have a great relationship and respects me. Her mom is still trying to buy her respect and love back.
If they're accusing you of something you aren't doing it's time to see what they're doing. They're usually trying to justify their actions. Because they're a whore doesn't mean you had to be one.
You had a lot to do with what blew up in your face. My advice is a lot what others have said. Be there for your kids. Don't grill the kids about mom. Don't use the kids against mom. Don't be a wuss. By that, I mean if she's asking you to do something for her that you wouldn't normally do for someone you aren't emotionally involved with, don't do it. You may still be emotionally involved. She's not. She may try to see just what she can get you to still do.

And her "friend" she just had to say "Hi" to at midnight is more than just a friend.

Good luck. My marriage lasted 17-years. The plus is I found a gorgeous woman a couple years later and we have a great relationship still 3-years later.