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Originally Posted by Camarowguy
You are the one who made a mistake. Then you added this person to Facebook....another mistake. Just put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel? You wouldn't like it either. I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you probably aren't telling the whole story and possibly telling it in your favor. Don't worry tho, your human and that's natural. You need to just rethink this situation. You did wrong, plain and simple...you didn't think beforehand if this other person was worth losing your family over...which you did. You need to learn from this. Let her go. Visit with your children and move on with your life. Just next time thing before you act. I'm not condemning you, just shooting straight. Always always do this before you even consider infidelity:
- think is this chick worth losing my family and my way of life
- would I want my wife/girlfriend doing this to me?
Those two questions will keep you out of trouble if you live by them. I do.
While marriage may get boring sometimes, and you may think it's fun and exciting to fling around with someone new....in the big picture...it's not worth it. Good luck to you. And remember, let her go...don't bug her...act normal when your around her. Do nOt ask her back. Be nice. Don't act interested in her anymore. You might get lucky and her give you another chance. (don't screw it up if she does) don't apologize anymore, that brings hard feelings. This advice I'm giving you really does work.
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I'm going to have to agree here....Coming from the other side of this.
Not that I think her being indecisive helped - Frankly, I DO think she should have straight up said get the fck out or never speak to that girl again....but...still. You had the choice to not talk to the girl or re-friend her.
Aside from her issues, what you did was straight up wrong.
I went thorugh plenty of bad times in my marriage and I never ONCE went to anyone for things like that. These conversations weren't just talking out problems and asking a friend for support -- this was you cheating, just as much as if you'd fcked her. With women, there is a clear line. Some shit you do NOT do with anyone but your woman.
My husband was my best friend, I trusted him - with everything -- including things I have sworn I will NEVER trust another living soul with again. He lied to me, he lied to other people about me, he told other people things about my life they had NO business or right to know. He stole from me and conned my family and his -- he is overall the biggest sociopath I have ever met.
I would never want to repeat that part of my life, but I'm glad for the lies and the cheating -- otherwise I would still be with him and I would be miserable. He never loved me, he never complimented me, he never supported anything I wanted to do or be. He was a pretty bad person - for having a personality that could con you into liking him. He didn't give a shit about anyone else - it was all about who liked him and how much. He never had to pay for his mistakes. Even now, his family probably never mentions what he did or how awful he is as a human being, b/c they don't want to have to "deal" with that kind of stuff. Must be fcking nice. Even his two arrests for drunk driving, like they never happened. Never had to pay for any of that.
Sometimes bad things happen for a reason - I wouldn't be the person I am today if he'd been different, if he hadn't cheated and lied -- and I sure as shit wouldn't be as happy as I am. (you know, most of the time
).
I'm glad (now that it's all long over) that it happened this way -- there are better things out there. Better people. You need to learn to be one of those better people -- what you did, was cold. Next time - either man up and admit you aren't happy with the woman you're with, or talk to her -- don't go to some other girl to make you feel better. That's just low.