Originally Posted by navyblue2000
It's funny, I've actually been doing these exact things. I don't talk to her about getting back together...because I know for one it's way too early, and two I know she doesn't want to hear it. I started counseling last week too, and am on an antidepressant as well.
Actually, this woman wrote my wife an apology letter. It was over two and a half years between contact with this person too.
As I said before, I would have NEVER gotten back into contact with this person if I didn't think (because she said it was alright to) she was okay with it. Ah well. You live and learn. It was my mistake, yes, and I tried to make it right. As soon as she said she wasn't happy because of that, I took her off my facebook and that was that. Funny part it when we went to the counselor I brought up the fact that she had regular contact with a male friend, and I started to become uncomfortable with it, but she refused to stop because, in her words "I've never given you a reason not to trust me." Counselor told her it would be best for her to stop contact with him too, because even though this guy friend had been through a lot, she couldn't "be the head cheerleader for two guys". Somewhere between the end of the counseling session and 2 hours later when we met with our pastor, she had sent him a facebook message "Counseling session was great, can't wait to tell you more later". She wanted to tell him about how the counselor got onto me pretty hard about what I did.
Hint: When you give someone your email passwords (she wanted mine, and she gave me hers), make sure you delete your deleted items folder if you have something to hide. She didn't, and I found several facebook messages that were questionable. For example, why would someone send you a facebook message at midnight saying "You're probably sound asleep, but I just wanted to say hi", without ANY kind of thoughts or motives? She claims she really just wanted to say hi, but I can't help but think that's a lie...
PLUS, for as many times as she said she wouldn't stop talking to this guy on the premise or "I've never given you a reason not to trust me", the DAY AFTER she packed up and left I called her and said "Hey, look...while you're still my wife, PLEASE stop talking to him." She said "OK', and according to her phone usage (she was still on my account for a few weeks after that), She didn't call or text this guy. weird.
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