[Mrvnmartian]

Originally Posted by hrpiii

Well, as much as I would like to jump on the bandwagon and say you did it, something is not right on her side. I do NOT think you are getting the full story from her. I'm betting money, she is seeing a male friend,.....

Go your own way, think of the kids and how best to give them what they need, be there for them <-- them, not her.

Originally Posted by navyblue2000

Funny part it when we went to the counselor I brought up the fact that she had regular contact with a male friend, and I started to become uncomfortable with it, but she refused to stop because, in her words "I've never given you a reason not to trust me." Counselor told her it would be best for her to stop contact with him too, because even though this guy friend had been through a lot, she couldn't "be the head cheerleader for two guys". Somewhere between the end of the counseling session and 2 hours later when we met with our pastor, she had sent him a facebook message "Counseling session was great, can't wait to tell you more later". She wanted to tell him about how the counselor got onto me pretty hard about what I did.

Hint: When you give someone your email passwords (she wanted mine, and she gave me hers), make sure you delete your deleted items folder if you have something to hide. She didn't, and I found several facebook messages that were questionable. For example, why would someone send you a facebook message at midnight saying "You're probably sound asleep, but I just wanted to say hi", without ANY kind of thoughts or motives? She claims she really just wanted to say hi, but I can't help but think that's a lie...
PLUS, for as many times as she said she wouldn't stop talking to this guy on the premise or "I've never given you a reason not to trust me", the DAY AFTER she packed up and left I called her and said "Hey, look...while you're still my wife, PLEASE stop talking to him." She said "OK', and according to her phone usage (she was still on my account for a few weeks after that), She didn't call or text this guy. weird.

I was going to say, before it was already mentioned and you stated this that she was probably projecting what she was already doing onto you and your past friend on facebook. I believe she wanted a way out of the marriage so she can be with this other guy and you gave her the out, even with the excepting to go to counseling. I think she wasn't expecting you to agree to that.

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

I'm not divorced, but am a child of multiple divorces, and can tell you, the kids will be fine, IF, and ONLY if you keep them out of the middle. Don't talk about her to them or in front of them. If the two of you have a hard time remaining civil to each other, be sure the kids aren't around when you talk to her. It took a lot of hard work and 7 years for my husband to develop a decent "co-parenting" relationship with his ex. My stepson is 13 now, but he has some serious lack of respect for his parents because of everything he heard and saw between them over the past 10 years.
Hang in there....

I've been through 2 divorces where we had children. This is very important, in my opinion. Keep the children out of the middle of it and never say anything bad about their mother, even if she is saying bad things about you. Good luck and keep moving forward and enjoy spending time with your children and the camaro.