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Divorce is never fun or easy. It's a draining emotional roller coaster more times than not pits two once loving individuals against each other.
Adding the third party to facebook was a huge mistake. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? It would hurt.
I too was pursued a divorce and discovered I was pregnant with our third child. State of Ohio won't allow you to divorce to determine paternity. So I had to stay in an unhealthy, abusive home for almost another year (couldn't afford an apartment and pay half the house payment, daycare, etc) on my income.
That was 1990 and we still to this day can't talk like two civilized adults. Two of the three kids are married. He had other prioritites until he realized I was really going to leave. He pursued me for six months and I had to have the cops involved a couple times and he was charged in court twice.
I remarried in 1991 and will celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this September 14th (the day my first granddaughter is due to be born). Have never been happier. We had one child together as he has never been previously married and inherited my three kids (and he was 25 at the time).
We only heard your side of the story, ya wife may have had some post-partum issues, but if she keeps bringing this topic up every couple months - it's not going to be healthy for her, you or your two young children.
Children bounce back quickly when they are young like yours are.
I'd say it wasn't meant to be - and time to move on. Good Luck. Lori
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