Is it just me, or does the OP sound like a 14yo going through "changes"? lol I'm not trying to be mean, but it's just the way he describes things.
First off laughing at his situation and at the fact that you feel he is a "14 year old going through changes" is a douche thing to do. Also, putting "I'm not trying to be mean" after something doesn't negate the fact that you just said it. If I go up to a girl and say "You look like Shrek, I'm not trying to be mean or anyhing" dosn't make it ok for me to say that.
Another reason why I think you are young. I already said I didn't mean to be mean. It's not me being arrogant. Most people that go through identity crisis are teenagers. Just a little FYI for you.
Once again, as said in the statement above. I think you are the immature one thinking "I don't mean to be mean" gives you the right to be a jerk. Then the sarcastic comment "just a little FYI for you" to cap it off, classy for a 29yo.