Join the military then they will make you find yourself real quick lol. No but seriously be yourself but respect others in the process anyone that is worth keeping around you will be there no matter what. My father is always trying to tell me how to dress when I go back home, I dress normal I hate dressing up fancy unless I have to. I wear a uniform proudly everyday but once im off duty I want to relax and feel comfortable. Maybe you should go see this guy sometime: