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Originally Posted by 8cd03gro
Be careful. While punishment and revoking privileges is fine, if you go overboard it will make her end up much, much worse. The kids I know that had overbearing parents in high school are the worst ones now in college. If you don't let them learn on their own (I'm not telling you to just let her do whatever she wants!), they will gain their freedom after high school and go absolutely crazy.
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Bingo.
I have a friend with an incredibly overbearing mother. We'd go to a movie or something and she would call three or four times that night just to check up on her. The minute we went to college, she was out partying and drinking. Luckily she still has a fairly level head on her shoulders so she's never gotten into trouble because of it.
Does your daughter need to be punished? Yes, she does. But you can't go overboard with involving her friends and their families. If you're going to be too overprotective of your kids, they may end up going into a rebellious phase once they're out of your sight.
She just needs to learn from her mistakes. I have another friend who got so drunk at a party that she spent two or three hours throwing up into a toilet. As far as I know, she hasn't touched alcohol since then.