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Be careful. While punishment and revoking privileges is fine, if you go overboard it will make her end up much, much worse. The kids I know that had overbearing parents in high school are the worst ones now in college. If you don't let them learn on their own (I'm not telling you to just let her do whatever she wants!), they will gain their freedom after high school and go absolutely crazy. You have to find that balance of guidance and punishment while trying to make them understand why you are punishing them. Sit her down and talk to her about why you are so mad. Talk to her about how much trouble she would be in if she were caught and how dangerous it is to be drinking at that age, especially when driving is involved. You may think she already knows this stuff, but she's 17 and doesn't think about it. I don't want to tell you how to raise your kids, but getting other parents involved and trying to get the other kids in trouble is a dangerous game. I can cite multiple examples of girls in situations just like that who let loose their freshman year of college and became drunks who needed abortions.
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