[ChangerOfWays]

As far as I know it isn't possible to disable the exit lights, unfortunately.

As for the easy exit/eject mode, follow these steps:
There are four buttons on the door for memory seating: Set, 1, 2 and Exit

First, position your seat to where you would like it when exit mode is activated. Next press the Set button (it should beep once) and then quickly press and hold the 4th (Exit) button until it beeps twice. The position is now saved. It may take one or two tries before you get the timing right. If you didn't get the two beeps, you missed the timing window.

Follow the same procedure for setting your memory positions for 1 and/or 2 as you like. Adjust seat -> Press "Set" -> Press and hold 1/2 until two beeps sound.

Pressing and holding either 1 or 2 will adjust the seat manually to those positions.

I personally set both 1 and 2 to the same seating position (I am the only driver), and the exit position fully down and back with a slight recline.